All posts by Andy V.

Estonian born; New York City raised; University of Rochester ('66), United States Marine Corps (1966–70), University of Michigan ('73), Uncle Sam, and US Naval Intelligence Reserve (1974–2001)—not to mention every day living—educated.

Parallel Lives in Times of Turmoil–An Alsatian’s Experience

Having used the previous post to remind anyone in need of reminding–every major conflict produces stories like those of my family’s–millions of them, regrettably. I had been hoping to bring the stories of others close to me to light in this digital medium.

Having read the posts concerning my mother and father’s post-war story, good friends Jan and Yolie, the European-born (Belgium and Alsace) parents of my spousal unit’s brother’s wife, recalled a life parallel to my father’s.  Jan and Yolie are part of that great migration of the period, having emigrated from Belgium and Alsace to Canada, respectively.

And so, with thanks to Jan–hope you and Yolie are well in the winter of beautiful Montreal. You raised a wonderful daughter–like me, an “only”–and she with Guy have raised two lovely daughters, one of whom we saw twice this past weekend.

So, thinking of Jan and Yolie, here is their story as Jan has told it.

“ESTONIA AND ALSACE.”

What do the extraordinary experiences of two people during WW2 have in common?

In Eastern Europe we have Mr ALBERT VAART forced to leave his country ESTONIA because the coming annexation by the SOVIET UNION of the BALTIC NATIONS. These events brought him to take part in this conflict as fighter pilot in the LUFTWAFFE, and to see his wife and young boy become “displaced persons”.

In Western Europe, with the annexation by GERMANY of ALSACE (and Lorraine) we have our cousin LUC ELLING forced to join the WEHRMACHT, as young Alsatians are called to a WEHRPFLICHT, or obligatory service in the German Army.

A common experience happened in early 1945 on the German-Russian front, by then fought in Poland :

  • for Albert Vaart, fighter pilot in the Luftwaffe, to be shot down, parachuted and landing on friendly soil, heavily injured and sent for many month in hospitals. It took 1951 to be re-united with his wife and son at a pier on the Hudson River in NEW YORK, thanks to a new USA law permitting refugees to come to the USA
  •  for Luc Elling, radio-telegraphist & serving-gunner in a small tank (a crew of four), to survive the destruction of the tank, and to be miraculously     rescued by a passing motorcyclist. Sojourns in several hospitals. Operations of his two wounded arms, but the right arm could not be saved from an amputation. By April 1945, he was in a hospital in Prague, from where he could organize an escape and join his parents in STRASBOURG, already liberated by the Allies armies.

And there is a further noteworthy parallel : both took on further graduate studies and had successful careers

DULCE ET DECORUM EST PRO PATRIA VIVERE.

Life and the Alternative on the USS Valley Forge, LPH-8, 1967-68

The ships of the US Navy, for the most part, are named after heroes and historic events in war. And so it was with the USS Valley Forge (LPH-8), a World War II- and  Korean War- era aircraft carrier that was converted into an amphibious warfare ship in the 60s.

Its mission after the conversion was to carry helicopters that would carry Marines to points relatively close to shore and permit them to fly in to surprise an enemy from the sea. In my time with Third Battalion First Marines (Battalion Landing Team 3/1) and the “Happy Valley,” the enemy was the North Vietnamese Army during the period December 1967 to February (give or take) 1968, the time of the North Vietnamese Tet Offensive.

I’d mentioned in an earlier post that after my months as a rifle platoon commander I had been sent to “Embarkation School” at Okinawa to learn how to load Marines and their equipment onto ships. I’m not sure to this day if this assignment was a kind of R&R from combat in what seemed a halcyon Japanese island or serious preparation for an upcoming assignment, which is what it turned out to be. The assignment would be the loading of Third Battalion, First Marines and their supporting arms onto the five ships constituting Special Landing Force 3/1.

I had taken drafting class in high school, and my father was a draftsman for a time in his early days in the United States. A good thing, on both counts. embarkation school was about loading Marines and their gear, considerable when considering that 1,100 Marines, artillery, tanks, and tracked landing vehicles needed to be distributed onto five amphibious warfare ships, the largest of which was the USS Valley Forge (shown here in 1968, with Marines and their helicopters embarked—official USN photo).

In Okinawa, I had no knowledge of the details of what I was preparing for. I essentially learned what each of the five types of ships in the task force could carry and how, using paper cutouts of equipment, the tanks, artillery, amphibious assault vehicles, ammunition, other equipment, and Marines of Special Landing Force 3/1 could best be loaded. No CAD software available in 1967.

On graduation, I returned to the battalion in the sands south of Marble Mountain and south of the city of Danang to learn that Embarkation School was not R&R. We would be loading out in two months, sailing to the Philippines for additional training, and then returning, with a squadron of Marine CH-46 helicopters for combat operations in Northern I Corps and I was responsible for creating the loading plan.  This led to a flurry of travels to the units that would join us. Then much clipping of paper into shapes of tanks, artillery, landing vehicles, storage points and so on.

Reverand Mariann Budde’s Prayer on Jan 21, 2025– to be remembered and Preserved


BISHOP MARIANN BUDDE: President Trump, ‘have mercy’ on immigrants and gay children

Wednesday, Jan. 22, 2025 — “I ask you to have mercy, Mr. President, on those in our communities whose children fear that their parents will be taken away. And that you help those who are fleeing war zones and persecution in their own lands to find compassion and welcome here.” (Budde is a graduate of the University of Rochester in the 1980s)

Posted 6:12 a.m. Today

 – Updated 6:39 a.m. Today

Bishop Mariann Budde and President Donald Trump at the Inaugural Prayer Service in Washington, DC on Jan. 21, 2025. (NBC News photo)

EDITOR’S NOTE: At the inaugural prayer service Tuesday, Mariann Budde, the Episcopal bishop of Washington, appealed to President Donald Trump to “have mercy” on the LGBTQ+ community and undocumented migrant workers. Her comments received extensive news coverage, including by the Associated PressNew York Times and network television broadcasts. Below is the full text of her sermon. You can watch it here. Of the prayer service, Trump said: “I didn’t think it was a good service.” 

As a country we have gathered this morning to pray for unity as a people and a nation. Not for agreement, political or otherwise. But for the kind of unity that fosters community across diversity and division. A unity that serves the common good.

Unity in this sense is a threshold requirement for people to live in freedom and together in a free society. It is the solid rock, as Jesus said in this case, upon which to build a nation. It is not conformity. It is not victory. It is not polite weariness or passive passivity born of exhaustion.  Unity is not partisan.

Rather unity is a way of being with one another — that it encompasses and respects our differences that teaches us to hold multiple perspectives and life experiences as valid and worthy of respect. That enables us in our communities and in the halls of power to genuinely care for one another. Even when we disagree.

Those across our country who dedicate their lives or who volunteer to help others in times of natural disaster, often at great risk to themselves, never ask those they are helping for whom they voted in a past election or what positions they hold on a particular issue. And we are at our best when we follow their example.

For unity, at times is, sacrificial in the way that love is sacrificial — a giving of ourselves for the sake of another. In his sermon on the Mount, Jesus of Nazareth exhorts us to love, not only our neighbors, but to love our enemies and to pray for those who persecute us. To be merciful as our God is merciful. To forgive others as God forgives us. And Jesus went out of his way to welcome those whom his society deemed as outcasts.

Now I grant you that unity and this broad expansive sense is aspirational and it’s a lot to pray for. It’s a big ask of our God — worthy of the best of who we are and who we can be. But there isn’t much to be gained by our prayers if we act in ways that further deepen the divisions among us.

Our scriptures are quite clear about this — that God is never impressed with prayers when actions are not informed by them. Nor does God spare us from the consequences of our deeds which always, in the end, matter more than the words we pray.

Rev. Mariann Budde leads the national prayer service attended by President Donald Trump at the Washington National Cathedral, Tuesday, Jan. 21, 2025, in Washington. (AP Photo/Evan Vucci)
Rev. Mariann Budde leads the national prayer service attended by President Donald Trump at the Washington National Cathedral, Tuesday, Jan. 21, 2025, in Washington. (AP Photo/Evan Vucci)

Those of us gathered here in the cathedral, we’re not naive about the realities of politics. When power and wealth and competing interests are at stake; when views of what America should be are in conflict; , when there are strong opinions across a spectrum of possibilities and starkly different understandings of what the right course of action is — there will be winners and losers when votes are cast; decisions made that set the course of public policy; and the prioritization of resources.

It goes without saying that in a democracy not everyone’s particular hopes and dreams can be realized in a given legislative session or a presidential term. Not even in a generation. Which is to say: Not everyone’s specific prayers for those of us who are people of prayer; Not everyone’s prayers will be answered in the way we would like. But for some, the loss of their hopes and dreams will be far more than political defeat, but instead a loss of equality and dignity and their livelihoods.

Given this then, is true unity among us even possible? And why should we care about it?

Well, I hope we care. I hope we care because the culture of contempt that has become normalized in this country threatens to destroy us. We are all bombarded daily with messages from what sociologists now call the outrage industrial complex Some of that driven by external forces whose interests are furthered by a polarized America. Contempt fuels political campaigns and social media.  And many profit from that. But it’s a worrisome, it’s a dangerous way to lead a country.

I’m a person of faith surrounded by people of faith. And with God’s help, I believe that unity in this country is possible. Not perfectly, for we are imperfect people and an imperfect union. But sufficient enough to keep us all believing in and working to realize the ideals of the United States of America. Ideals expressed in the Declaration of Independence with its assertion of innate human equality and dignity.

And we are right to pray for God’s help as we seek unity, for we need God’s help. But only if we ourselves are willing to tend to the foundations upon which unity depends. Like Jesus’s analogy of building a house of faith on the rock of His teachings as opposed to building a house on sand. The foundations we need for unity must be sturdy enough to withstand the many storms that threaten it.

And so what are they, the foundations of unity? Drawing from our sacred traditions and texts, let me suggest that there are at least three:

  • The first foundation for unity is honoring the inherent dignity of every human being. Which is, as all the faiths represented here affirm the birthright of all people as children of our one God. In public discourse. Honoring each other’s dignity means refusing to mock, or discount, or demonize those with whom we differ. Choosing instead to respect, respectfully debate our differences, and whenever possible, to seek common ground. And if common ground is not possible dignity demands that we remain true to our convictions without contempt for those who hold convictions of their own.
  • The second foundation for unity is honesty — in both private conversation and public discourse. If we’re not willing to be honest there’s no use in praying for unity because our actions work against the prayers themselves. We might for a time experience a false sense of unity among some but not the sturdier, broader unity that we need to address the challenges that we face. Now to be fair we don’t always know where the truth lies.  And there’s a lot working against the truth now. But when we do know, when we know what is true, it’s incumbent upon us to speak the truth even when — especially when — it costs us.
  • And the third and last foundation I’ll mention today, a foundation for unity, is humility which we all need because we are all fallible human beings. We make mistakes. We say and do things that we later regret. We have our blind spots and our biases. And perhaps we are most dangerous to ourselves and others when we are persuaded, without a doubt, that we are absolutely right and someone else is absolutely wrong.  Because then we are just a few steps from labeling ourselves as “the good people” versus “the bad people.”  And the truth is that we’re all people.  We’re both capable of good and bad.

Alexander Solzhenitsyn once astutely observed that the line separating good and evil passes not through states, not between classes, nor between political parties, but right through every human heart, through all human hearts. And the more we realize this the more room we have within ourselves for humility and openness to one another across our differences because in fact we are more like one another than we realize. And we need each other.

Unity is relatively easy to pray for on occasions of great solemnity. It’s a lot harder to realize when we’re dealing with real differences in our private lives and in the public arena. But without unity. We’re building our nation’s house on sand. And with a commitment to unity that incorporates diversity and transcends disagreement and with the solid foundations of dignity, honesty, and humility that such unity requires, we can do our part and in our time to realize the ideals and the dream of America.

Let me make one final plea. Mr. President.

Millions have put their trust in you. And as you told the nation yesterday you have felt the providential hand of a loving God. In the name of our God, I ask you to have mercy upon the people in our country. And we’re scared now.

There are gay, lesbian and transgender children in Democratic, Republican and independent families — some who fear for their lives.

And the people, the people who pick our crops and clean our office buildings, who labor in poultry farms and meatpacking plants, who wash the dishes after we eat in restaurants, and work the night shifts in hospitals. They may not be citizens or have the proper documentation. But the vast majority of immigrants are not criminals. They pay taxes and are good neighbors. They are faithful members of our churches and mosques, synagogues … and temples.

I ask you to have mercy, Mr. President, on those in our communities whose children fear that their parents will be taken away. And that you help those who are fleeing war zones and persecution in their own lands to find compassion and welcome here.

Our God teaches us that we are to be merciful to the stranger for we were all once strangers in this land. May God grant us the strength and courage to honor the dignity of every human being; to speak the truth to one another in love. and walk humbly with each other and our God. For the good of all people in this nation and the world.

©20

On Remembering “Lost Cause” Ancestors

I was asked recently by a member of my cohort of newly minted Marine officers in 1966 to comment on a pair of emails on the subject of bringing down Confederate monuments and memorials. One was a defense of the Confederate soldier and his memory, and by extension soldiers who take up the cause of the “countries” in which they live. The other strongly supported the removal of Confederate symbols. The suggestion included the kind observation of me as someone who might be able to comment “objectively” on the subject. Feeling a bit undeserving of the observation, I nevertheless offered the following to the email group.

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Thank you for thinking of me in this way—capable of offering an “objective” perspective– though I don’t think I am worthy of that judgment. But I will offer a couple of thoughts anyway, for what they may be worth to anyone.

First I am not sure that in this day and age “objectivity” has the straight forward  meaning one might expect, given that unspoken (even unrecognized) assumptions and predispositions underpin so many judgments we hear spoken and written. For those in the intelligence business, awareness of such predispositions or biases within themselves is essential and require frequent “sanity” checks. Unfortunately, these occur relatively rarely among those who must act on intelligence, the policymakers in the National Security Council or White House, where predispositions tend to drive everything.

In my mind, having worked these decades in the business of intelligence, “objectivity” is only approached  when one acknowledges the underlying assumptions or premises of one’s beliefs and looks equally critically at the quality of the evidence or information that then influence one’s judgments. In the following, I hope I am as clear.

So let me begin with a few such underpinnings related to this subject about myself:

I am the son of Luftwaffe fighter pilot (250 missions over the Eastern Front, shot down on the last in February 1945)—accordingly childhood in New York City required explanation of family roots and roles during WW II. So I have feelings and experience in explaining ancestors involved in “lost causes.”

Relatedly, as an immigrant (arrived with my mother on June 25th 1950), I have an enormous amount of empathy for those who took the following as a signal of hope:  “Give me your tired, your poor,

Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,

The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.

Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me,

I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”

At the same time, I am married to a former member of the Daughters of the American Revolution, and I have always been amazed (and humbled) by the devotion of its members to ancestral heritage. (I hardly get past my grandparents!) I understand organizations like the Sons (or daughters) of the Confederacy hold the same  devotion, and I have read some of its material on this subject.

And, of course, like all of us, a veteran of Vietnam, a war I entered into fully supportive of what I believed were legitimate US objectives.

And, in total frankness—and this may totally rule me out of the realm of “objectivity,” I have never been more worried about the survival of the principles that I have held dear about my life and service in this country. And I will say up front, I do not believe the threat comes from anarchists, communists, or other leftist evils readily trotted out in US history as prime existential evils.

For those who care to read on, I offer the following, which includes at the end a recommended piece of reading that only the other day arrived in my email inbox—a reading about Germany’s reckoning with its Nazi past and how that experience relates to America’s reckoning with slavery and subsequent evils related to race.

Having now read both emails on this subject, I find things to agree with in each. At the same time, I think each is speaking from a different perspective or historical plane. In a sense, I guess I am saying that I see each talking about different, although overlapping things—perhaps because of the unstated assumptions each holds in these items.

First to the letter thinking of Confederate soldiers. I have empathy for the message, which I read as an homage  to those who take up arms and sacrifice their  lives and wellbeing  to serve when called upon by their “country”—whether it was the Union or the Confederacy or the United States generally.  I think we all must have some empathy, as we veterans of Vietnam all took up arms in what to many was and remains a wrong cause—and a lost cause. In this context, we have heard no end of stories of veterans of both sides from the war in the Pacific treating each other with respect and honoring each other’s bravery and dedication to their duty. We have seen it in the experience of many of our vets who returned to Vietnam to find warm welcomes. Certainly such feelings are not universal, but I sense that is a fundamental element of the letter—soldiers [including all of us in B Company] did their duty to the best of their ability at the command of what was to them proper authority. And I see this with empathy from the perspective of those whose family trees include Confederate fighters in the Civil War (as does my Louisiana born spousal unit’s). So, in a sense, from both of our perspectives, we have respected family members who fought for “lost causes.” I believe that mourning for those lost or respect for those who risked all is not an unreasonable sentiment.  

At the next level, honoring with monuments and statues symbols of causes for which these ancestors fought  brings me into complete alignment with the alternative perspective—for all the reasons offered and possibly more. I have read benign rationalizations of the Confederacy’s cause—e.g., the union was a great “experiment” and all its members were free to leave the experiment. So leaving the Union was not traitorous; it was just exercising an option to leave the experiment that always available to it. Maybe. But the defense of human bondage was reprehensible, even in the day to many with conscience and an environment to think of it in that way. And the way in which that commitment to bondage over the years evolved into so many other forms is equally so.

And here—returning to my observation about my father’s service in the Luftwaffe,  I offer another perspective on this whole subject, offered in  a book entitled  “Learning from the Germans: Race and the Memory of Evil,” by the philosopher Susan Neiman (published last year). An interview of Neiman in the New Yorker landed in my inbox today. I offer a segment of it here because I think it is germane and speaks to the issues both Woody and Virgil address in their emails. The following excerpt, in italics, is long, but I think it speaks to Neiman’s historical research on this subject in a way that may be more compelling—at least better thought out–than anything I might have to say. The complete article can be reached (I hope) at: https://www.newyorker.com/news/q-and-a/how-to-confront-a-racist-national-history?utm_source=onsite-share&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=onsite-share&utm_brand=the-new-yorker

I don’t idealize the process that the Germans went through in facing up to their criminal past. It was long, it was reluctant, and they faced an enormous amount of backlash. Most people outside of Germany have come to think the Nazi times were so awful that, the minute the war was over, the German nation got down on its knees and begged for atonement. And that’s just not the case. In fact, the few people who did get down on their knees, like Willy Brandt, in 1970, were vilified by the majority of their compatriots.

Q: You are referring to the West German Chancellor who fell to his knees as a gesture of atonement, in Warsaw, in 1970.

Precisely. There is a very famous picture that went around the world, and I think that for most non-Germans it is the iconic picture of postwar Germany. But that’s not reliable. Think about Brandt himself, who, as a Social Democrat, went into exile as soon as the Nazis took power. So, personally, he had nothing to atone for. But he still felt that, as the leader of a nation, he ought to make a gesture. What we don’t know, or what most people don’t know, is that the majority of the country thought it was wrong for him to get on his knees and atone, and particularly to be submissive before Slavic people.

So the change was from seeing themselves as the war’s worst victims—and I’ve seen mouths drop open when I tell this to an American audience, but they really did see themselves as the war’s worst victims. It’s not something that Germans tend to talk about. They’ll tell you about their Nazi parents, or their Nazi teachers, but they won’t say that their parents not only went along with Nazis but thought of themselves as the worst victims of the war. And I realized it was the same trope that you hear among supporters of the Lost Cause. “Our cities were burned, our men were wounded or put in prisoner-of-war camps. Our women were violated, our children were hungry, and, on top of that, the damn Yankees blamed us for the war.” These are exactly the sentiments that you would hear in West Germany.

I think it is very natural for everyone to want to see their ancestors and their nation as heroic. And if you can’t do heroic, then the move is to see yourself and your nation as a victim. But the move from seeing oneself as a nation of victims to a nation of perpetrators is one that the Germans finally and with great difficulty made. And that’s a historical precedent.

So, there is my perspective. Offered in response to a fellow Marine’s suggestion. If it rises to a level all might think about, I will be gratified.

Good night, and Semper fidelis,

Andy V.

Has Anybody Seen Miss Cahill?

The facade of Junior High School 143, John Peter Tetard JHS.

From 1954 until 1966, home was in the Kingsbridge neighborhood of Bronx, New York. Elementary school was P.S. 122, Marble Hill Elementary. Junior High School (grades 7,8, and 9) were spent in Junior High School 143. For me, Tetard was about 3/4 mile walk from our apartment on Sedgwick Ave, across the street from the Kingsbridge Veterans Adminstration Hospital.

What draws me to this piece of my story is the note in my previous post about the Liberty Mutual Insurance company making the Statue of Liberty a background for its sales pitch. Then there are Progressive Insurance Company’s nonsensical ads, which seem to reflect no interest in today’s public health crisis.

The string of these ads call to mind my formidable “social studies” teacher, perhaps 8th grade, who taught her students the valuable lessons of New York City life. But these lessons had to break through — to be kind — the lesser developed brains of 12 and 13 year-olds. Yet memory of her as a powerful presence turned out to be ever lasting. And embedded in my memory is the ditty we used to sing about Miss Cahill:

“Six foot two, hair of blue, has any body seen Ms. Cahill?”

We were not, of course, capable of fairness at that age, but the lessons she offered were also memorable: One must, out of courtesy to other subway riders, properly fold the New York Times as one reads the pages (fold each broad sheet in half length-wise, turn them against each other vertically, and then fold the length in half. There must be a You Tube video showing that somewhere); stock market listings in the business section must be read carefully, but all should remember that investments are long-term things, and one should not run one way or the other based on a day’s worth of trading; advertising serves a purpose, i.e., to inform readers about products so they can make informed decisions about purchases.

Am thinking Miss Cahill is spinning in her grave.

Reposting Thoughts of the Day 70 Years Ago that My Mother and I Arrived in New York City

Two years ago I offered thoughts on this momentous day in my life and the life of my mother as the US Naval Ship General Stuart Heintzelman arrived in New York City with some 800 WW II refugees from Eastern Europe. For my mother it marked the conclusion of an ordeal in survival begun with escape from Estonia in October 1944 as Soviet troops were closing in on Estonia. ( https://www.fanande.net?p=602 ) For me, about to be six, it was the arrival in a new world to be explored.

In that post of July 2018, I reflected on the state of the Trump administration’s thinking about immigration. Two years later, Covid-19 has given the administration opportunity to harden its position even more. It is deeply, deeply saddening to one who was a beneficiary of America’s generosity.

In rereading that post, I am reminded of the ideals that were espoused about the US immigrant community at the time and the welcoming tradition then said to have made new, prosperous lives possible. Of course, we learned long since that the welcome did not apply to everyone, and the values the welcome was said to have represented did not even apply to all who lived in this nation.

I would learn the limits of those values as I grew up and began to “see the world” as an NROTC midshipman in college during a summer spent on a US warship, the destroyer USS Beatty, DD 756. The eye-opener, as I believe I have noted here earlier, was the ship’s port call in Gulfport, Mississippi, in the summer of 1963. There, having lived in New York City since our arrival, I saw for the first time Jim Crow at work.

Today, I will admit to being disheartened in seeing how much remains to be done in that realm. I am also disheartened by the administration’s approach to migrants.

And, finally, I am disheartened by the way New York’s symbol of welcome has become a prop in an insurance company’s inane commercials, commercials that have the Statue of Liberty in the background but that have nothing to do with “liberty,” the company’s name. What immigrant who sailed past the statue can’t weep at the trivialization of the scene?

I should be (as I always am in other moments) happy about the opportunities that my mother and I had since June 25, 1950. We were blessed indeed. But today, sadness at the steady “passing” of those ideals we then both imagined embraced us and we in turn embraced feels overwhelming.

Next post on a better day.

Readers and friends, stay well.

andy

A Memory from 1993—Parents’ Weekend in Cornell

Cleaning out a vintage purse, Tracy happened on the program of the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity’s weekend in the spring of 1993 for parents of newly joined freshmen of the fraternity, my son Ryan being among them.

A pleasant weekend it was, with dinner cooked by an executive chef and wines served by a sommelier—both with III’s following their surnames. Only in Cornell?

Perusing the program, I found it contained a short essay entitled “The True Gentleman.” It is attributed to a John Walter Wayland (Virginia, 1899), according to a bit on the web from the North Dakota Chapter of SAE, which claims that it is the product of an essay contest held in Baltimore, Md., on the topic of defining the qualities of a gentleman–these are qualities that, naturally, can and should define gentle people of any gender.

I repeat the essay here as it lists qualities that I wish we saw more of in this day and age in our nation, especially in its leadership. Here is the essay:

The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.

– John Walter Wayland (Virginia 1899)

I’m glad that my son was associated as a young man with an organization that embraced them, and I believe he has come to embody them. From a proud father as Father’s Day approaches.

When is Son’s Day anyway?

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May 25, 2020: A Heavy Duty Memorial Day

Most Memorial Days I manage a visit to Arlington National Cemetery. That will not happen on this Monday. I don’t guess, given the state of the Covid-19 pandemic, that I will even venture into the District of Columbia to visit the Vietnam War Memorial. Unless things change shortly, I will stay home and think about the fallen, those I knew and those I did not.

Memorial Day Weekend at home in Reston, VA

I’ve posted on Memorial Days past:

“Memorial Day 2017–Paying Homage to Marine Classmates of 50 Years Ago” https://www.fanande.net?p=508

“Memorial Day 2017-Remembering a Solemn Duty” https://www.fanande.net?p=523

“Memorial Day 2018-Some Scenes, Some Thoughts” https://www.fanande.net?p=579

In those posts I thought of comrades who gave there lives believing they were defending the liberties of Americans. I think of them today. But I also must think of those who have died and are dying during this pandemic. And as I think of them, I can’t help but ask again, as those of us who put on uniforms of US military services have asked of themselves when taking our oaths, “What have I sworn myself to? What will be my solemn obligations? What will I be giving up to carry out those obligations?”

The members of my Marine cohort of 1966 knew their obligations included going to war in Vietnam. We also knew that our personal preferences stood low in the priorities of our service obligations. We knew our faces would be shaven daily, our hair cut weekly, our uniform standards and civilian clothing expectations non-negotiable—not subject to our whims or any sense that we had a “Constitutional” right to those choices while we were in service of the country and others (underline “service to others”). Invoking the Constitution to object to wearing a tie or getting a haircut under such circumstances was simply unimaginable.

Most Americans understood that sacrifices were in order during a crisis on the scale of World War II, at least I am not aware of any law suits objecting to rationing on Constitutional (or any other) grounds. Not having researched this, I can only guess, but in that emergency, it is hard to imagine a suit, if filed, could have succeeded.

All of this speaks, of course, to the anger, sometimes violent, over requirements or requests to wear face masks to reduce the risk that people will unwittingly spread the coronavirus to others. Perhaps this is a reflection of the fact that since World War II ordinary citizens have not been obliged to sacrifice even small freedoms to help advance a national cause. The chief obligation seems to have been to stand at sporting events and applaud men and women in uniform or first responders of one kind or another—all deserving to be sure, if somewhat tiresome to those for which it is intended.

Now, in this “war,” all Americans should think of themselves as combatants. How then is being asked to suffer the discomfort of facemasks to protect others too much to ask? How can such a small matter be such a grave infringement? I would ask those whose names appear below, “What is too much to ask in the service of fellow citizens?”

In memory of those many who have given their all in other wars. av

Postscript: Today (May 25) I received and read an emailed essay Maya Lin had written about her thinking behind the design and her experience in the competition and the completion of the memorial in 1982. She was only a senior at Yale when she entered her drawing into a design competition her architecture class fortuitously learned about. It was a competition that would draw more than 1300 entries. She wrote the essay soon after she designed the memorial, but it wasn’t published until the year 2000, when it appeared in the New York Review of Books. The above image, with B Company classmate Matthew O. McKnight’s name at the center, demonstrates precisely what Ms. Lin hoped to achieve. Read “Making the Memorial,” Maya Lin, November 2000.”

Stuck at Home: Catching Up on Images of Childhood

While I am doing work at home during the current crisis, the limits of the possible permit me to spend time doing other things. There is yardwork–a war of its own perhaps to be mentioned in another time.

For now, I have countless 35mm slides in our basement. So, I thought it might be fun to bring them into the digital world. I will try to do this mostly chronologically, but expect diversions.

I don’t know that I will have any deep thoughts here. Just reflections on memorable moments, moments illuminated by this long idle slide collection.

Part One: Father and Mother (Isa ja Ema) in the 1950s.

The collection, so far the earliest I have identified, contain a few images of my father and mother at times and places I remained home–an early latch key kid–another story I have toyed with.

The story I have told up to now has been of Ema’s devotion to me and to our mutual survival. As well, I have talked of Isa’s later arrival and his reunion with Ema and his pursuit of higher education and professional work in the United States. The image below shows the two together, with other Estonians at a small celebration of some kind–a marriage, a birthday, an anniversary? I’d bet on the former: flowers, champagne, a corsage of two.

Isa and Ema at a party
Isa and Ema at the far end of the table (in the right corner).
Another view of the party, Isa looking to be deep in some other thought.

For Isa, the early years in the United States involved work–eventually leading to a profession he had not been interested before the war. Music would have been his profession in Estonia. In the United States it turned elsewhere, work as a draftsman, schooling toward advanced degrees in civil engineering, and eventually computer programming early in the IT revolution. Below are two images that I can only speculate suggest an interest in the 50s in Columbia University, which had a major architecture program. Instead, he would eventually enter an eight-year night program at Cooper Union leading to a degree in engineering. It was a tuition-free program; Columbia’s would not have been. (Columbia rejected my application in 1961.)

Isa standing on the grounds of Columbia University.
Isa standing on the campus of Columbia University. Date unknown, probably mid-1950s. I would find myself there at commencement 2019, giving a presentation to the commissioning ceremony of the Columbia NROTC class in the Lowe Library, the building behind Isa.

Visible in the image above to the right of the Lowe Library is St. John the Divine Episcopal Church, a magnificent edifice that I would visit in 2019 when I participated in that event. Below during a lovely spring, Isa.

Isa t St. John the Divine Cathedral
A most impressive cathedral near Columbia University is St. John the Divine, by which Isa here stands.

Another view of Isa is in a visit to Battery Park. I imagine the view of the Statue of Liberty from there would have held great meaning in those early days of his life in New York. Fortunately, he did not live to see the television advertisements of the insurance company, Liberty Mutual, that have trivialized the great monument.

Battery Park
Isa and colleague and/or friend at Battery Park in New York City.

And finally, in this portion, I offer an image of Isa in front of the under-construction New York Coliseum at Columbus Circle in New York. The highly controversial project went up during 1954–56. I can only guess that at that point Isa was working for a drafting firm that had some share of responsibility for the project. One can’t say it would be lasting monument to anything. By 1986 it was gone. I remember it from the its years of existence as a destination for a pair of adolescent friends from the Bronx out to see the latest at the annual automobile show. The coliseum was also a feature of our journeys to New York Ranger hockey games at Madison Square Garden, just ten blocks down the street from the Columbus Circle subway station. That, too, would evaporate later, its name moved to a structure at Penn Station a mile south.

columbus circle
Isa and a colleague at Columbus Circle in NYC, in front of construction site of the New York Coliseum, most likely in 1955.

To be continued.

About the Displaced Children

During the past month, numerous stories appeared at about the same time in the New York Times. One Times front-page story, January, 31st, had the headline, “29 Syrian Children Die During Freezing Escape from the Islamic State.” A month later, February 26, came this: “Syrian Children Freeze to Death. Bombs Rain Down. And ‘Nobody Cares.’” The week before, on February 19th, The Times’s “At War” newsletter, weekly commentaries on war from veterans, scholars, and others, appeared with this headline: “Beyond The World War II WE Know: When Jim Crow Reigned Amid the Rubble of Nazi Germany,” by Alexis Clark (adjunct professor at Columbia Journalism School and author of “Enemies in Love: A German POW, a Black Nurse and an Unlikely Romance”).

What connects today’s Syrian stories to Professor Clark’s contribution about a segregated US Army occupying Germany after Berlin’s surrender in 1945? In a word, “children.”

With the sad story of Syria’s displaced children already on my mind, Professor Clark’s story led me back to an image in my mother’s small photo album of our time in Europe, the one from which I drew the image in my last post. One photo in that album that I had never displayed before came to mind. Shown here is this mixed-race toddler taken in the late 40s at the orphanage at which my mother worked.

The attached image is just one of several reminders of our time as displaced persons, a pair of the millions looking for peace and homes at that time; it is haunting and thought-provoking, even after these many years.

I scanned it, when I began my “rummaging,” but I didn’t include it in the images I used here because I didn’t understand why it was taken and why my mother kept it or what it might have meant in the scheme of things. In all, questions I could not hope to answer. I wrote to Professor Clark and asked her if the image spoke to her in some way? Did it point to anyone she might have discovered in her research?

She said it did not, but she sent me a link to an obituary she had written a year ago for the New York Times series, “Overlooked No More” obituaries of people who, for whatever reason (race, gender, controversial achievement, etc.), had not receive obituaries in The Times that they might have earned today. The one she sent was entitled: “Overlooked No More: Mabel Grammer, Whose Brown Baby Plan Found Homes for Hundreds.” Professor Clark wrote that Grammar “would run an adoption agency that made it possible for unwanted mixed-race children in Germany to find homes after World War II.”

Continuing:

“They were called “brown babies,” or “mischlingskinder,” a derogatory German term for mixed-race children. And sometimes they were just referred to as mutts.

“They were born during the occupation years in Germany after World War II, the offspring of German women and African-American soldiers. Their fathers were usually transferred elsewhere and their mothers risked social repercussions by keeping them, so the babies were placed in orphanages.

“But when Mabel Grammer, an African-American journalist, became aware of the orphaned children, she stepped in. She and her husband, an army chief warrant officer stationed in Mannheim, and later Karlsruhe, adopted 12 of them, and Grammer found homes for 500 others.”

Perhaps this little child was among them. I can only hope so. And we can only hope for better fortunes for the children in Syria.